Life in your 20s can be exhausting, confusing, and pretty much terrifying. Most women in their 20s are clueless about what they are doing with their lives. They either care too much about their bodies, about the way they look, about other women’s opinions, and about getting older. It may be they spend too much time to make their life perfect, to look for a steady romantic relationship, to ‘fit in’ in their peer groups, and to meet the society’s expectations. In the process, they lurch from one situation to the next, desperately trying to land perfect jobs, to have perfect relationships and create the perfect wealth.
Here are 7 brutally honest things women in their 30s want women in their 20s – who feel highly pressurized to figure out who they are and where they are going by the time they reach their 30s – to do in order to live their life on their own terms. Those in their 20s need to add more fun, passion, excitement, and adventure to their youthful decade, and be on top of the world.
1. Love and Respect Yourself
You need to give yourself a break. You need to stop being your own worst critic. You need to love and respect yourself to avoid taking wrong decisions, avoid making wrong relationships, and avoid chasing wrong dreams.
“A healthy self-love means we have no compulsion to justify to ourselves or others why we take vacations, why we sleep late, why we buy new shoes, why we spoil ourselves from time to time. We feel comfortable doing things which add quality and beauty to life.” — Andrew Matthews
If you don’t like your job, just find and follow your passion and you’ll have a great career. It is essential to feed your soul with what inspires you. It’s important not to stray down a path that doesn’t best suit you; enjoy what you do so you never really work a day in your life.
“There is no passion to be found playing small — in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.” — Nelson Mandela
3. Build a Strong Support System
Having a strong support system (could be your family members, friends, co-workers, neighbors and acquaintances) is imperative – to fall back on if you fail, or to celebrate when you succeed. A strong support system is key to your emotional health and happiness; it keeps fatigue, stress, and loneliness at bay.
“What greater thing is there for human souls than to feel that they are joined for life – to be with each other in silent unspeakable memories?” — George Eliot
Your 20s is an age when you tend to always be pleasant, happy, positive, smart, adjusting and caring. But you need to stop being too considerate, too kind, and too selfless. You need not change your personality unwillingly or hide your emotions just to live up to everyone’s expectations.
“Everything will line up perfectly when knowing and living the truth becomes more important than looking good.” — Alan Cohen
5. Live for Yourself
Dare to live. Have the courage to live a life true to yourself, not the life others expect of you. The fastest way to stress, anxiety and unhappiness is by trying to keep up with ‘what’s good’. Make decisions and live your life based on your opinion, not the opinions of what others consider to be good and bad.
“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive and go do it. Because what the world needs is more people who have come alive.” — Howard Thurman
When you are in your 20s, you put off travel until it is too late. Try to do as much traveling as possible while you are young, while you have the time, the openness to experience, and the energy — because traveling broadens your horizon, helps you find a focus, and challenges you in new ways.
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” — Mark Twain
7. Don’t Rush to Exchange Vows
There is such a thing as getting married too young. According to a 2015 University of Utah study, young 20-somethings lack the wherewithal necessary for happy resolutions in the face of routine marital problems. So don’t rush into marriage just because everyone your age is getting hitched.
“When marrying, ask yourself this question: Do you believe that you will be able to converse well with this person into your old age? Everything else in marriage is transitory.” — Friedrich Nietzsche